How to give good gifts
This might seem weird – it’s not Christmas, there’s no big gift-giving holidays on the horizon, and my dog’s birthday isn’t until September. But it’s something that’s been on my mind.
Gift giving is something I find challenging, but LOVE to do.
I come from a family of big gift givers. At Christmas, it borders on obscene. But when we buy a gift (yep, even the boys) we want it to say more than ‘I got you something (kinda ‘cause I had to).’
We need it to say 'I hope you can see how much I love, admire and respect you. Thank you for everything you do for me. You’re actually awesome.’
We want it to show that the time and effort we put into researching, walking (seriously, the amount of steps my brother clocked over the Christmas shopping period was epic. His PB was 25,000 in ONE day) and buying this gift for you is nothing compared to how much you mean to me.
We’re not a mushy family, but we are a very loving family. And the one way we get lovey-dovey, without having to say anything is by giving damn good presents.
A gift says what we can’t put into words.
Whether it’s someone’s birthday (you’re special! I love you!) to someone losing the one they love (I have no words. I’m here for you, always. I love you.)
From a Wedding Present (I’m so happy for you! I’m so privileged you asked me to be here!) to a ‘just because’ gift to someone going through a tough time (It will get better. I’m here for you. I love you!)
A gift says what we can’t, or don’t know how to. Sometimes words are just that: words. But for many of us, action is where the real love is felt. The act of giving says so much, without a word being spoken.
I know how hard it can be to find the perfect gift. How do you know that they’ll love it? And if they don’t like it, will they think I don’t know them? Don’t care for them? Or couldn’t be bothered searching for something they’d like? How can you show someone what they mean to you in one little gift?
Well, friends, that’s where I come in! I am often asked what the best gift idea is. And of course I say: Cleverhand you fool! Because I’m biased and my own biggest fan.
If you want to give the most meaningful, heartfelt, yet on-trend and stylish gift without having to follow in my brothers 25,000 footsteps, I’ve created something for you.
It’s completely unbiased (I mean it!) (for realz!) and I think it will help you when you’re searching you're empty brain for The Perfect Gift.
So, here it is:
THE CLEVERHAND GUIDE TO GIVING GOOD GIFTS
If you want it to be THOUGHTFUL, then you’re going to have to thinkabout it. Crazy. Ask yourself:
What do we have in common? (Fave tv show, love of Harry Potter, obsessed with our eyebrows)
What do they talk about the most? (health, boyfriend, kids, fashion, world peace)
If you want it to have MEANING, ask yourself:
What do they mean to me? (fun, funny, bff, absolute rock, hot piece of arse, etc.)
If you want it to be STYLISH, ask yourself:
what is their style? What colours do they use in their home? Do they like big pieces of art, or small clusters. Would they want something for their lounge, office or pool room? (I know what Darryl Kerrigan would choose)
If you want it to be heartfelt. Go deep.
Write your own words. Maybe a letter? A poem? List all of your favourite qualities about them. Or find the perfect quote that says exactly how you feel.
BONUS: If you want to take the piss out of them. Do it! Pay them out, keep it light, and make them laugh everytime they look at it. The gift of laughter is one of the best.
Once you have your answers, brainstorm a gift that fits what you want to say.
I.e. If you want a thoughtful gift for your eyebrow obessed friend, you could get her an eyebrow pencil, threading, or a quote that says ‘it’s not you. It’s your eyebrows.' Easy!
Apply these strategies to every kind of gift and I promise you’ll be invited to every damn party in town.
I felt compelled to write about gift-giving, because it’s a really nice thing to do. And I know it’s bloody hard to think of the perfect thing to buy.
If there is any way that I can help you in your search for a gift that says everything you need it to, but you can’t find your own voice to say it - I would love to help.
I want everyone to know that you are a thoughtful and caring friend. A loving girlfriend and wife. A doting mother, daughter and granddaughter
I want the recipient to feel loved, special and valued. I want them to know that their gift was made for them only. That like this gift, they are one of a kind. (And, you wouldn’t have them any other way!)
I want your gift to reflect what you feel, and the recipient have no doubt in their mind of what they mean to you.
That will always be my intention.
Yours in giving good gifts.